When Flesh Fights Faith: Holding on While Letting Go!

From One Woman to Another…

Sis, I hear your heart.

This space you’re in—it’s tender. It’s raw. It’s real. You’re not confused, and you’re not weak. You’re simply human. A woman with memories, emotions, needs, desires, discipline—and a deep desire to honor God even when it hurts.

Let me be honest with you. Waiting is warfare. Not because we don’t know what we’re waiting for, but because we remember too well what we had. And let’s be real, every moment from your past wasn’t toxic or traumatic—some of it was fun, fulfilling, and felt like “this could be it.” Some of it felt irreplaceable.

So when your body remembers the warmth… when your mind drifts back to the comfort… and when your heart aches for what felt like love—it’s hard to stand still. But sis, standing still is where the breakthrough happens.

You’re not holding on to a man… you’re holding on to a memory.

And sometimes, memories will lie to you. They only replay the highlight reel, not the behind-the-scenes pain that made you choose obedience in the first place.

Why Is It So Hard Now?

Because now, you know more. You want more. You expect more from God and from yourself. You’ve tasted temporary and it’s no longer satisfying. You’ve matured—and maturity doesn’t mean temptation disappears; it means you recognize it and still choose the better thing. That’s growth, even when it feels like grief.

And yes, sometimes obedience feels like loss before it feels like reward

Here’s What You Can Do While You Wait:

1. Grieve honestly. It’s okay to cry over what once was. God can handle your disappointment, your frustration, and your longing.

2. Reframe the memory. Instead of seeing it as “what I lost,” begin to see it as “what God freed me from.” Yes, it had good parts, but was it God’s best?

3. Feed your spirit when your flesh is weak. This is the moment to pray, fast, journal, or even go on a solo date. Pour love into your soul when your body starts to speak louder than your purpose.

4. Declare truth out loud. When temptation hits, say it out loud: “I am not trading a moment of pleasure for a promise of purpose.”

5. Find safe places to vent. (Like right here). You don’t have to be perfect. You just have to be present with God and honest with yourself.

A Final Word, Sis…

God is not ashamed of your struggle. He’s not surprised by your weakness. He desires your surrender more than your perfection. And He will honor every tear, every “no,” every lonely night, and every yes to Him.

You will love again. You will be touched again. But this time—it will be holy, safe, and forever. Let that be the hope you hold on to while you let go of what was.

Because what’s coming… is worth every hard decision you’re making today.

With you in the waiting,

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